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Courtesy
of Sandra Harrison
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Well, before I get started I want you to
understand that today it is very acceptable for
non-traditional arrangements to be made for handling the
payments related to a wedding. We see lots of brides and
grooms taking financial responsibility on themselves. More and
more often we are now seeing practicality taking the place of
tradition.
Now, having said that - tradition dictates the
following rules of finance:
The BRIDE is responsible for paying for the
groom's wedding ring, her personal lingerie, gifts for the
female attendants, personal stationary, lodging for her out of
town attendants, a bridesmaids luncheon, and the gift for the
groom.
The GROOM is responsible for paying for the
Bride's engagement and wedding rings, the marriage license and
any other legal documents required by your state. The Bride's
bouquet, the bride's going away corsage, corsages for the
mothers and grandmothers on both sides, all of the
boutonnieres, lodging for his out of town attendants, the fee
for the clergy, the honeymoon and transportation, gifts for
the groom's attendants and (let's not forget) the gift for the
bride!
The
ATTENDANTS are
to pay for their attire including dress, tuxedo, and
accessories, but not flowers.
The BRIDESMAIDS are usually responsible for
giving the bride a shower. Today, a good idea is to have a
couples shower; it's a lot of fun and the groom gets to be
involved
The
GROOMSMEN usually give the groom a party while the USHERS are
responsible for their attire.
The
flower-girls' and ring-bearers' PARENTS are to pay for this
related attire, though today, the parents of the bride often
purchases these items for the little ones. You will probably
need to closely evaluate the closeness of the families and
parents before deciding on how you want to handle this.
The
groom's PARENTS are responsible for the rehearsal dinner,
their own attire, their travel and hotel expenses, getting the
gifts to the newlyweds new home, and a gift for the couple.
The
bride's PARENTS are responsible for the majority of the
affairs at hand. They need to handle the cost of their own
attire, all the decorating costs, facility rental,
invitations, wedding photography, the bride's gown, attire and
accessories, musicians, bridesmaids and flower-girl bouquets,
the entire reception, gratuities, and a wedding gift for the
couple.
You
may now be able to see why "TRADITIONALLY" many
fathers of the bride offer to pay for an elopement!
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